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It’s Difficult but Not Impossible

January 26, 2009

One of “the Four musketeers” (meaning the female half of my closest circle of friends) called me yesterday to see what I would be doing in September.

Naturally, being military and all, I told her nothing is planned but that doesn’t really mean anything.

My friend K is pregnant. She is five weeks as of yesterday. She wants to know if I’ll spend the last couple of weeks of her pregnancy with her and then a couple after- to help her get settled and all that. She is one of my best friends and there is absolutely NOTHING that I can control(and that includes my poor self-image) will keep me from being there for her.

She is really the only one that knows about our Infertility issues because I had to share with her when she suffered her first miscarriage. She felt so alone and I was the only one out of eight (if you include the guys) she turned toward for comfort. I couldn’t let my own insecurity prevent me from being a friend. I’m praying for her- that this pregnancy sticks because she has had enough heartbreak.

Its difficult- ya know? To look beyond something that is so personal to me and be there for her completely: Its not impossible.

I just have to remind myself of that…as often as it need be

3 Comments leave one →
  1. January 29, 2009 7:57 pm

    I agree sweetie. It is difficult, but not impossible. Hang in there. For me, it’s always better once it becomes about the baby. But it never is completely gone. You’re a good friend.

  2. January 30, 2009 11:10 am

    It is difficult. It’s so hard. I hope you’re able to keep your chin up … and even more so, I hope that at somepoint you switch over from wanting to be happy for her to actually being happy for her … which really is difficult (I’m not saying I’m good at … I always just wish that for myself).

  3. January 30, 2009 6:01 pm

    You are an amazing woman.

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