Comments on: Validation

By: Dianne

Dianne — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 19:51:47 +0000

I came to your blog from Mel’s. Ironically, I just started reading this book. For the longest time, it sat on my bookshelf. I couldn’t bring myself to read it. But, I recently realized that I was still mourning and thought heck – I should just read it.

The idea of about validation is eye openning. The loss of what is suppose to be – of the dream is huge. I wish and may be will come up with a solution for myself – that I could bury that dream. In a outwardly act. Still thinking as to what that may be.

By: Shinejil

Shinejil — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 17:31:29 +0000

I agree with you totally about the blogosphere being the best thing since talk therapy was invented. It’s so helpful for me to know that other women and men are wrangling with their feelings about IF. Their words have helped me become bolder and less depressed and resigned to my personal suffering.

By: goofygoffin

goofygoffin — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 13:56:22 +0000

Very nice written post! It is amazing how the friends who don’t care to or just can’t understand will walk away. My husband is azoospermia. There is no “fixing” him. While more women cope with infertility, the men are often forgotten. I’m the only one there to cope with him and for him. I’ll have to find this book. Thanks for the post and the comment. It’s nice to find all of these personal journies and not feel so alone….

By: Let It Be

Let It Be — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 02:41:26 +0000

What a beautiful and insightful post! Validation. You’re right. It is essential to those of us dealing with IF and/or repeated loss. It’s so hush-hush in society that it can make you crazy until you find that community of others who know what it’s like and can actually give you support. I can’t believe how isolated I had become through my own actions/choices and those of others who chose to walk away from me after my last m/c. I don’t know where I’d be without my online communities. To know that the author acknowledges what we go through is trauma makes me want to read the book. I may have to try and hunt it down tomorrow. Keep on keepin’ on! ((hugs))

By: screamofcontinuousness

screamofcontinuousness — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 18:14:17 +0000

I quite agree. there were so many times when I wanted to do violence to the latest person who is just SURE that if I hang around with babies more “something will adjust” inside me and I’ll get pregnant. Or whatever seemed to work in her family. Or the “don’t give up hope honey!” people when the doctors have all already told me that it’s over.
I so get the frustration. On the other hand God tells me that I’m not allowed to kill people just for being ignorant or insensitive, so I guess I’ll just have to let them live.
well written post.

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 00:02:59 +0000

Wonderfully put. I seriously need to pick up this book on Amazon. Perhaps I’ll get it quick enough to be able to catch up with you!!

By: Muriah

Muriah — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 20:59:49 +0000

I’m so glad our feelings are validated. They are real and we are not crazy. Excellent post and understanding of chapter 1.

By: Barb

Barb — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 01:32:39 +0000

Very very well said!! And I am in awe of the healing you seem to have done in the past few months alone. Well done.